My wife and I have been married for 5 years. I love my wife dearly and am committed to her and our marriage. We also have a 5 year old daughter. <p>We are now facing some very tough issues regarding a possible long-term separation due to my job.<p>My wife and I met when I worked overseas. She is a brigh and beautiful woman, and also very ambitious. I have encouraged her to go to graduate school, and she is now enrolled in a graduate degree program at a prestigious Ive League University. I am happy to be able to support her in this endeavor, even though it has been very difficult being apart when she is at the university. <p>We now face another problem, which is that my job will require me to leave the country soon. We knew that this was coming and were hoping we could put off my departure long enough for her to finish her degree. It looks like this is not going to happen. We have already had two long crying session telephone calls on this; and there will probably be more. I am really and truly sorry that I have to go, but I am being pushed by my employer. To not go (w/in the next 3 months) would mean ending my employment, which provides for my wife's school tuition and for our home and for our daughter. I have considered other options, but nothing has come forth in the past few months that will keep me in the U.S. <p>So, the question is what to do now. I have been trying to come up with ways in which my wife's graduate school needs and my employer's requirement that I get overseas soon can coincide. One thing I am trying to work out is some field work or an internship that my wife can do during the summer. With an internship, she would then be only 14 credits short of her degree, which she could complete in the fall. In this case, we would both win - she would fulfill her professional and educational requirement, I would be able to continue to support my family, and we would be together throughout the summer and be able to relax. During this time, we would also be able to work through the larger issue of who and how we will care for our daughter when my wife goes back to school. However, my wife seems not to know what she wants. She knows what she doesn't want - which is to go overseas. Any advice here? Do we have room for negotiation?