Hi Doreen, It's my first time to, so don't you worry. I am sort of at a lost with your problem.
All the signs have shown that either your husband is having an affair or he is really fed-up of your nigging.
As you have said, he walked out a few times but for what reason. If he is just walking out and does not give an explanation then something is really going on with him.
You should not allow him to just walk back into your home when ever he feels to and ups and walk back out again. You are worth more than that, so don't ever let anyone take advantage of you like that.
It's either he comes and sit like a grown man and talk it out and decides if he's staying or leaving.Where do you think he was when he missed those hours on his job?
Come on Doreen, open your eyes. I'm not telling you to give up on your husband, but look at how long this has been going on. You have your life to live as well and why should you make yourself unhappy because of YH attitude.
Make it worst he is not helping you as a husband is surpose to!YH needs some prayers and I think that you should get yourself into some group, wither it be in your church or some ladies support group.
As I said, you sound like a nice person for anyone to be taking advantage of you, just remember God your father in heaven, LOVES YOU with an undieing love.
Put all you worries in his hands and all your fears and he will take care of all your needs.
I will be praying for you but you also need to pray for this situation and your husband.
Do you still love him and want him back? Will you trust him enough to know that he will not just take himself up and walk out again? <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Doreen:
<strong>Hi,
I am new here so please bear with me. Like the rest of you I do not want a divorce! I have filed for one though. Nuts yes! I am just beside myself as my husband has walked out of here 4 times now. The first time it was for overnight, then 8 days, then 4 day, and now he has been gone since May 22. He came one weekend and mowed the yard a week and a half after he left. He comes in like nothing happened no hugs or affection which has been going on now for almost a year and then leaves, in a hurry watches the clock. He can not call me at night? Says he is not having an affair. He Caled the 14th and told me to think about talking this mess out? I did not leave. This has been brewing as I had said and he says it is my yap! I do not yap. I only have tried talking to him as I feel lots and knew there was something wrong. We do not fight lots. He pushes me away or hugs me one armed, comes home from work with his wedding band off (he can not wear it at work) but has never forgot it before! This last time he left was because I had asked him why his paystub was missing hours and where he went. I just asked not yelled until he made me mad by telling me he does not know where he went and his paystubs are none of my business! He has been kinda hiding them for 6 months or so. He also has charged lots recently and I asked him to look at it first - I pay the bills, as he does not want to, I split the house bills with him and then we are responsible for our own personals. I work for half the pay he does and I resent his selfishness. He says he is not responsible for me. I have not had him served as of yet. Help can this marriage be put back together and how do I negotiate this one? Thanks for being here as this is just a great help!</strong><hr></blockquote><p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
