This morning I woke up thinking that my life will still go on--with or without him. He is coming over again tomorrow (for the 2nd time) to pick up some things and watch our daughter's game. Her last one. He left last Tuesday after I asked him to. <P>I have sent him two e-mails in that time. The first one asking him not to call me for awhile or to drop in unexpectedly. The second one--I bared my soul and told him that I would wait for him. That it would have to be his move. That I missed him.<P>Typically, he didn't know how to respond to my letter and said he would so in time. Don't think I will live that long! Anyways, my question is---how do I act tomorrow? Should I just be cordial and act like nothing has happened? Or should I tell him I need him? And his daughter needs him? Without seeming desparate.<p>[This message has been edited by Scaredsilly (edited August 30, 1999).]

Scaredsilly, I'm probably the wrong person to respond here because I seem to be the queen of saying and doing all the wrong things, but here goes. I would attempt to be polite. If he is moving out because he needs time to think, then the last thing he is going to want is pressure from you. Treat him as you would any good friend. Maybe if he sees you in control of your life without him, it will make him wake up and realize that you won't wait forever. On the other hand, if he brings up the subject, I wouldn't pass up an opportunity to tell him you still love him and are willing to work with him to save the marriage.

I would not push the issue. You have said what you need, the next move is his. Be nice and enjoy your daughters game. <P>------------------<BR>You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR>* Viki

He needs time to think but I asked him to leave. I couldn't stop snooping and I sensed that his affair wasn't on hold. He was home for all the wrong reasons. He mislead me and won't admit that he has done so. He never said that he was committed to making our marriage work. I had blinders on I guess!<BR>He won't bring the subject up I know.