Hi,
Hope I can get some light on this subject? I really would like to know if I go ahead and take H to court for support if this is going to really rock our working out this M? I do know he complains of all the naughty things I have done since he abandoned me over a month ago now, like changed the locks, pulled the small bank account to pay bills and went to a lawyer. I had to survive. He left without me knowing where he had gone and I still do not know. I am at a loss as he has only taken his personal bills with no offer of help. I only make 8 an hour and can not possibly live on this pay!
H has come a few more times since last post and only wants to blame me. Will not listen to my side. At this time I have not yet proved him as having an A. Oh yes the whole picture points that way, but I do not want to assume! He did come today to let me know he would come help with my dogs (I have a Kennel), when I go in for tendon surgery soon, but then said he was going to offer? Then announced he was going out of town with the boys to fish for three days. See not much time together to fix this, but only when he decides to come. Boy talk about messing me up? He is driving me over the edge. Talks in circles! H is still very cold and angry. Yes I get somewhat touchy, but it bc he goes over the same crap all the time. I get emotional very easy and yes I cry, but I can not help it, my heart is breaking and he just does not even show any emotion. So guys and gals where now? Are these head games? Thanks so much to all of you great people. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

You say you have a lawyer? Has anything been put in writing about him about spousal support? Is this the support you are talking about or is it child support? My exH forced me to go to a lawyer and get the ball rolling towards divorce when I realized he wasn't going to willingly take care of us during the divorce period. He had to pay the bills until the divorce was final plus child support. You need to get that in place so that you don't have to worry at least until the divorce is final. If you stayed home during your marriage, you may be able to get spousal support after the divorce. I personally don't like that unless it is absolutely necessary. How can you truly move on if you are being supported by your former spouse. Good Luck!!

Hi TickledPink,
No nothing is in writting. I have just covered all my tracks so that I can live. He does not even know about me serving him and oh yes I am sure he is going to be very happy. I hate to do this but he is the one that dissapeared not me. I do work but only half of what he makes - no kids. Just a huge amount of bills he made. The man never quit charging even when told he better take a good look at the situation. I paid the bills and he never looked. I just wondered if this was going to end our marriage as I have been trying to save it. I have not filed for divorce as of yet but all is there if I want it. I just want support for now. Thank You for your input.

Sincerely
Desmee

Make sure you show your lawyer ALL the bills and get it in writing that he will pay them. Of course, the creditors won't care where the money comes from and you might get hassled anyway. I have a friend who's ex husband put her address down as the billing address. He also told her that the taxes were paid when in reality he had only sent in a payment on them. When she filed alone after the divorce, the IRS kept her money even though the divorce decree said that he would pay any taxes owed. I'm telling you so that if that is one the bills you will wait until april 15th to send in your taxes if you are getting something back next year. Also, make him pay maintenance at least until the divorce is final. Since you don't have kids, I don't see how you could continue getting it after but who knows? You can always ask for it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />