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Policy of Joint Agreement
#62478 09/04/02 08:36 AM
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Hi everyone,
This is my first few days of this board and for what I can see, it looks like a wonderful thing you have going here.
My question is where do I get the Policy of Joint Agreement? Thank you all in advance.
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On the website under basic concepts, I think!
Welcome...
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In the Policy of Joint Agreement, what if no solution gets "enthusiastic agreement"? What if the agreement is more along the lines of "totally disinterested"? Some topics will generate more enthusiasm than others, right?
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The POJA confuses me, because on the one hand both partners must both agree, and on the other hand there must be NO self-sacrifice.

It seems crystal-clear to me that at some point there will be a stalemate, a dealbreaker.

I can understand compromise in which both partners agree to give up a little bit and/or give a little more, but I don't really understand the POJA concept (and I've read 4 of Harley's books).
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Check out this post: POJA Guidelines

You may find it helpful.
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Good post

<small>[ October 30, 2002, 01:34 PM: Message edited by: sherlock ]</small>

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