By Susan Page? I just started reading it and would like to know if anyone has read it.

YES! YES! YES!<P>Not only that, but I've been touting it on this very board for months.<P>Not only that, but I told my therapist about it, and she has not only bought a copy, but marked it up liberally and uses these techniques with her patients.<P>It's a GREAT book, and useful for ANY kind of relationship, not just marriage.

Where did you get it?<P>------------------<BR>You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR>* Viki

Barnes and Noble here in town. I have also seen it on their web site. www.barnesandnoble.com.<BR>It has some good ideas. I don't agree with everything she says but it does make some good points. It has some great ideas to add to our relationships.

Well Sheesh, you have my curiosity peaked... spill some of those ideas....<P>Please, oh Please?<BR>

I'll have to bring the book in to give specifics. I've only read the 1st 4 chapters, but it gives some ideas for some "quality time" activities. One thing i thought was a good idea; writing a letter to your spouse, mailing it to the post office at a romantically named city (it lists several, like love, colorado) and having them mail it to your spouse from there. It mentions some "adult" not porn, but just adult board games that I am going to try tonight. Different ideas to add some spark into a troubled marriage.

TexasMan, the main premise of the book is that a relationship between two people consists of the action of one and the reaction of the other. When you change YOUR half of the interaction, the other person can't react in the same way...so the relationship by definition changes.<P>So if you make positive changes in your actions, your spouse will inevitable respond to those.<P>The book is more about that premise and about changing your mindset than about any specific hints. <P>This from amazon.com:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Based on the premise that what one does in a relationship makes changes faster than anything you<BR> discuss, Pages introduces the concept of "Loving Leadership" and offers 14 empowering and<BR> doable strategies for recapturing the positive feelings. Step-by-step, Page demonstrates that with<BR> tangible goals, and new ways of thinking, one partner can bring new levels of harmony and love to a<BR> relationship <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

The game is called "Enchanted Evening". We had a pretty good time and it makes you talk about your relationship. They had a lot of games that were a little more erotic, but I am starting small. www.lovegames.com

Thanks for the info on the book. Right now h is here and "content". Whatever that means--I think it means don't bug me to do anything Think I'll get the book and see what I can come up with. H does respond to me and will answer very direct questions, but won't initiate anything. Driving me crazy!

I better chime in too. I added this book to the large library of marriage books I have accumulated in the past 9 months. <P>If you haven't implemented a Plan A, then this book will certainly help you in doing so. Plenty of ideas on bringing you together again as a couple. <P>I reccomend it.<P>Amazon.com has it too.

Thanks all, I'm going to look for this one too. Seems it would be good for any relationship building with my W or God help me, someone else if needed.<P>

my copy is worn and post-it filled... I haven't used it lately, but from time to time I dive in. Trying the 'experiments' she suggests works in interesting, usually very positive ways ... I tried hiding it from my boyfriend, but one day he came over and saw it. He picked it up quietly and looked at the title with tears in his eyes. Good luck.

I would love to hear suggestions for other books to read. This was my first "relationship" book since I was thrust into this new world of the betrayed.<BR>