Hello everyone I am new to this page, and going through alot right now, I have been married to my husband for 3 year's now and we have been through alot, we have to beautiful girl's togther they are very young only 1 and 2 we are seperated right now because my husband say's that he doesn't know if he can trust me, we have been through so much i guess I wil have to start off at the beginning. around a year ago, I met up with an ex boyfriend from along time ago, and we started talkign and hanging out alot, and I told my husband that I wasn't sure but I thought that I had feeling for my ex boyfriend, which I didn't it was just me being confused, so a while after that I told my H that I was wrong and that I was so sorry for hurting him but that I loved him more then anything and I wanted to work it out, well about 4 or 5 month's ago he told me that he thought that he wanted to date other women and that he wanted me to leave with my 2 girl's, so I told him ok I will leave, so anyway's I started seeing a guy after this, and my H was trying to get me back at this time and I told him no that he had hurt me too much and I didn't want to do it any more, so then now he is dating someone one but I can tell that he still has feeling's for me, and I feel that we can work thing's out and that we can be a happy family again, I just don't know what to do any more. PLEASE anyone give me advice on what I should do, thank you.
SHalena

You and your hubby need counseling to work out the trust issues and to learn how to meet each others emotional needs.

yeah I know that is what we need, I actually brought that up to him in conversation before, and he just doesn't want to do that, we do have alot of trust issues. thank you for your advice.

I made it a rule in when I married for the second time, no "friends" of the opposite sex. You can have aquaintances, but if you ask me, when has a guy and girl ever been friends without ONE OF them wanting more. Be honest, have you ever had a guy friend, with whom you know without 100% he is not interested in you, or vice versa? Sounds like too many snacks/goodies (girlfriends and boyfriends) are constantly spoiling your dinner/main course (your marriage). You say how I met my ex, spent time blah blah, then I had feelings for him.

I can understand how lonely being a mother can be sometimes. Trust me! But consoling yourself, and filling your time with interaction of the opposite sex (other than a relative or spouse) does not help if you are married. I'm sure I read an article about how giving time and attention to someone of the opposite sex is a "love buster". Try this article perhaps??

Love Busters

It has some concepts about the issues you seem to be struggling with.

<small>[ October 15, 2002, 11:32 AM: Message edited by: Catwalk1 ]</small>

I failed to take the chance to go with counseling with my wife before it was "too late.” Marriage is one of the most rewarding and challenging careers in existence. We expect employees of all trades to attend training in one way or another, why not marriage training. This is done through counseling. Let him know it isn't the counseling which is so important, it is the marriage. The counseling is just to improve the skills to have a successful marriage.

<small>[ October 29, 2002, 01:23 PM: Message edited by: Fallen Papa ]</small>