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#62590 11/22/02 09:18 AM
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I cheated on my husband and i dont know what to do now. I told him that i cheated so now he knows.
Heres the problem though. I dont know how or what to do now. This person that i cheated with made me feel different then the mother/wife/cleaner/cooker than I am. I think thats why I did it. I wanna make my marrriage work but i dont think he knows what he wants. One minute hes fine and the next hes having a fit about it. I told him its up to him but what do i do now?

#62591 11/22/02 10:05 AM
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my husband cheated on me... he told me very little about it!(details) it was upto me to move on and gett over it or not, stay married or divorce, i wanted my marrage and our famliy!

So i chose to forgive... the hardest thing i have ever had to do!!!! WE talked about the affair 2 times, i have tryed to talk to him about it but he will not...he wants to forget i can not... i dare not bring it up because it is in the past(2 years ago) but it still hangs over me like a black cloud,

i have read on this forum both tell him everything to leave it alone and get on with your life, i can see the good and the bad in both way you chose to handle this.

it is differant for each person, tell him everything and there are more hurtful trigers, but not telling him leaves him with his oun mind and he will make it up as he goes along and hold some resentment!!!!(what i am doing at this time)

i guess what i am trying to say is go off what he needs from you, he needs more give it to him...
no matter how painful it will be for you, he will need this to get through this and have a healthy marrage.
Great luck,i will try to keep up with your post.


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