Ok, here's my question <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Can/should one spouse use the POJA to stonewall the other into something they don't want to do?
How are you supposed to handle this?

Say one spouse has a need for FS. The other says they don't want to get a job. There is no agreement on this, much less enthusiastic agreement, so one spouse does all the work and feels resentful.

How are you supposed to work out these sort of things? Is the one spouse just supposed to hope that someday the other will "see the light", and possibly support the other spouse for his entire life?

This is only one example, but I'm stuck with a whole SLEW of these stonewalling things. I want to have enthusiastic agreement with my mate, but when they don't want to do something, I feel stonewalled. Anybody else working on this?

Thanks

There is a good post on POJA that I just "bumped" up on the EN forum for you..."POJA guidelines"

I think it helps illustrate how this works.

Kathi