H had our 3 year old for the weekend and dropped him off on Sunday morning. Our son was sick--had a fever and threw up yesterday morning. H said he gave him Tylenol in the am, but his temperature was high about 1 hour later so I called H to find out what time he gave him the medicine.<P>I have caller id-H called 2 mins later, but hung up. H called again and when I picked up the phone H & OW were having a full-blown fight and didn't know the phone was off the hook--I heard everything. <P>OW didn't like that I called and H must have lied about who was on the phone. Anyway, it was some screaming match and OW was doing most of the yelling. It sounded like it was getting a little physical. At one point, she was choking him and it ended with H saying she's mental and wants her things packed and gone by the time he returns. The phone then hung up. <P>I am pretty sure they didn't know I was on the other end. H and I have never had a fight like that and we were never physical with each other.<P>H has been denying affair all along, but he can't deny it any longer. Not that I am going to mention hearing their fight as of right now.<P>What does everyone think? Does this sound like a breakthrough for me? How should I handle H when I see him next? We are supposed to be meeting with our attorneys this Friday(he filed back in 6/99).

Don't mention that you heard anything. Just be sweet, wonderful self. If he has denied the affair all along, then why did he file?<BR><P>------------------<BR>You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR>* Viki

What luck to get in on that conversation. Maybe now he will realize the grass is not greener.

to pondvj:<P>H filed for divorce 2 weeks after I gave him the Plan B letter. He was pressuring me for the majority of the time he's been gone for a legal separation. He even had one drawn up and gave it to me when I was 6 mos pregnant with our son. I have always refused to signing a legal separation and told him that when I want out of this marriage I'll file; until that time I'm not doing anything. <P>He's says that the 20 year old bimbo employee(as I like to refer to her as) is just a good friend.<P>Anyway, he filed 6/1/99 and hasn't done anything to push it along. I sometimes think that he filed just to keep OW happy. After hearing their fight, I knew I was right about her being a loose cannon!