Slow down Staceyike, I am new to this discussion board, but I do recognise, destruction in progress. Stop and consider what you have right now. A Husband whom you love, with some traits you think are great and some you find intolerable.
Why not try a tactical approach for a limited period. Do not rely on him to make you happy - but not in a resentful/hurtful way towards your husband - Just be content with yourself mind yourself then invite him to join in your happiness.
Try to relax it takes two to argue, you must STAY CALM, anger breeds anger, situations, just go from worse to worse. You have an opportunity now to reverse negative behaviour and advance your intamcy. Read those pages on conflict resolution and PUT THEM INTO PRACTICE. Surprise your husband, disarm his negativity, by being pleasant!! Understanding his reasons without becoming a doormat, can actually allow him see you in a new light. Be true to yourself not angry focus on the positive side, and decide whether these little battles which add up to a lot are really worth destroying your relationship over.
I wonder if you could visualise your husband as someone you truly wanted to impress (not get at) the next time you talk, even if he seems hostile in his attitude towards you as long as it is not physical.. try to believe this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you want to help him (and you) be all that he can be, through positive reinforcement of his good qualities. Think about what they are. Surprise him with your love for him.
Thats all i can think of right now, i hope i helped you. Those MB pages are amazing check out conflict resolution, Love Busters, the whole sheebang.
Good Luck