I am embarrased to post this, however I need Help! We have been married for l9 yrs and until recently (3yrs ago) our marriage was dull. Ok sex, but I never felt fullfil or loved. I always felt it was just sex and to that kind of boring.
Then we started watching adult movies and I once asked my husband if he liked seeing two women together. He of course said YES! I said I thought it was sensual and then one day we went to a party and we acted this out and involve another woman in with us!
Well, not to say it was the worse mistake I ever made! He of course loved the idea and from then on he has wanted to do it again.
I do not feel right about doing this and I have asked the Lords' forgiveness and I know He has forgiven me.
However, my husband insist on doing this and is now to the point that he is angry at me and does things to get me upset. For instance, every weekend he says he wants to go out to an adult club that he found out and be there with me sexually. This club of course there are people having sex in different rooms apart from many other things that I cannot mention here.
Well, I told him no more! He has withdrawn from me and tells me he loves me more when I am more free and open to things like that. Than he wants to share all things with me, especially with sex!
He seems to be addicted to this and I don't know what else to do but stand my ground and say NO!
If someone can help me I will welcome any help.
Desperate :teary: :teary:

Taticagirl: I saw your post and saw that no one has replied, yet.
First, I am a guy with no experience with what you are dealing with, but I can certainly tell you to hold your ground on this matter. He has some problems for sure, but you cannot allow yourself to be pulled into it. This is a tough one, I know, but stand your ground and obey God no matter what happens, because you answer for your behavior, not anyone else's. He will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory.

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Taticagirl

Never allow anyone to pressure you into doing anything that is againgst your principals. Stand up to him at all cost. His anger is only a tool to make you feel guilty for not giving in to his fantasies.

There are other websites that I visit and discuss the results of much the same situation that you are in. There are no happy outcomes for those who give in to their mates pressure to join in this activity. Divorce, death, mental collapse or worse is the normal results.

Since your husband is blind to everything but fulfilling his fantasies, you must protect your own health, physical, mental, and spiritual. Keep faith in yourself and your marriage even if he does not. Keep posting and the people here will be more than happy to share advise with you.

fudd.

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Thank you for your response and help
I need to continue standing firm and not
giving in no matter what.
Please let me know other web sites with this kind of situation.
Thanks

hi
I just saw your thread am not sure you are still around.

I just want to tell you the Lord does not expect you to do anything that goes against His word.

that type of thing is like walking into a scene in sodom and gohmorrah.

you do not have to be a participant nor even enter there satanic doors.

Do not conform to the worlds standards.

God has called us to a high calling remember that,
God tell us to be Holy because He is Holy.
hide yourself in Him he will protect you and he has forgiven you.

I am sure that you need to pray for your husband you don't need to be with him sexually either if he is messing around it is considered adulty.
don't preach at him that is casting pearls before swine..

pray for God to give him heart after Him, to turn him around make him a Godly man.
then he will do right by you.
If he throws it in your face you did it before..tell him IT IS UNDER THE BLOOD OF JESUS NOW..and his could be..he needs to seek Gods forgiveness and also yours for putting you in that position.

in our younger early married years when my children were small..my brother=in-law had a party where they were swapping when I realized what was going to happen..I told my husband I wanted to go home..he told me no..I got mad and told him come on lets go. NO he said so I just left it was half an hour when he noticed I was not there..
he found me walking on the freeway..he said to me
"ARE YOU STUPID? You are so pathetic you don't know how to have fun.

I just felt sick, I would not go out with him again unless it was to a family resturant. I could not depend on him to protect me..and I did not live like that nor did I know he liked that stuff..I was not a prude in the bedroom, I Did things for him I am sure he was surprised I said ok..I DID not ever have anal sex..and I think that is really sick..I am not sure what a 3 some does but I imagine the thoughts go through your mind and you replay things..

don't continue to look to the past..
"Forget the former things:
do not dwell on the past.See, I am doing a new thing!"
just walk ahead ask the Lord to lead the way and you will hide yourself in Him..
you do that by praying to him just a normal conversation to Him and you will hear the still small voice and you will know your on the right path..
don't be like sarah do not look back..

get checked for stds...
hugs
my e-mail is earthangel@telcomplus.net

write me if you want..take care.Keep on Keeping on. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

This is the first time that I have read any of the posts on this topic.

DON'T GO AGAINST WHAT YOU ARE FEELING!!!

I know a couple who kinda sorta did the same except it involved S&M and 3-somes are almost the same... once you cross the line and you are the adrenaline/addictive type, regular sex will never the same for you.

Has your husband ever cheated on you? He needs to get counseling to find out why this is so IMPORTANT to him for y'all to have a 3-some. It has nothing to do with being open and free -- it's just not right. Tell him you'll watch the movies (if you want to) but not the 3-some. That it was something you were willing to give it a go and got caught up in the moment of it all but feel too badly about the choice now. It's obvious he does not feel bad about it.

Tell him you can have exciting sex without involving another person. There are ways to keep it exciting..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />