Dear Second Rounder,
I have heard of that happening. Wish I could remember some details. Nothing outstanding comes to mind.
If you reply with a few detials of the problems that you feel you might encounter, people could better chime in on your specifics.
It seems to me you would start out dating, without expecting everything to come back together real quickly.
Have you looked at the 10 Emotional Needs in MB Articles, and looked at the QUESTIONAIRES, in the top bar of the MB home page. You might start with what was working, and what you could improve. What about Love Busters? What are you willing to commit to improve? How can you demonstrate that you are serious about those improvements? What factors led up to the divorce? Are any of those factors different now?
Why did you take on the name Lonely? I would encourage you to work on not getting back together with your divorced wife out of only lonliness. What are the ideal qualities you are looking for in a woman? You have it to do over again now, what would you do differently? Are there any family members who supported your marriage? Sabatoged your marriage?
Are there people who sabatoged you marriage of whom you are not aware? What are you planning to do to prevent sabatoging to occur? How resistant is your wife to sabatoge?
My wife is PTS, that is, easily influenced by others, (see the Scientology Handbook, $95.00) I thought she was in love with me because she would go along with my ideas. I did not relaize that she just had a weakness to go along with most ANYBODY'S ideas, and every week or two, she comes home with someone else's ideas, and we argue and fight for a week or two about those ideas, then there is peace for a week or two, and then she brings home somebody else's ideas again, for a week or two of fighting and arguing. My latest mechanism to help my wife develop her own ideas is to ask her to talk about POJA to her acquantences, so that she will not be agreeing to buy into their ideas, because sshe has a partner with whom she needs to consult. My wife talks to everyone like she will wholeheartedly agree with their ideas. Then she brings their ideas home with force and vigor, and commitment.
When I post, I try to raise some questions, and then discuss some of my own problems, which I did here above. I give others advice, so that I can figure out my own problems. The more I write, the more thinking I do about solving my problems. Reply again.
Inspirationally,
Quipper
Married 28 years and still struggling
