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Regarding Christmas with ex
#63100 12/12/03 11:52 AM
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Does it change any ones answer if the adult children are spending the 22nd of December thru Christmas Eve with their Mother and only coming for Christmas morning with their Dad and our family. Does the ex still need to come for this occasion? Help I am still torn with my feelings.
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Adult children can drive themselves, so why does the ex need to come to your family celebration? I had this same problem. The ex (who was horrid to me for most of our courtship) just couldn't let go and wanted us to share holidays, dinners, even VACATIONS together. I think this is very dangerous. It makes her privy to too much information and that is like giving bombs to a terrorist. It is time that your new family be considered a unit in itself, and the ex needs to build her own life. This is your husband and your Christmas, and though I don't know how long you have been married or how long this has been going on, she needs to stay out of it.
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Ok. being new, I didn't see your previous post even though it was apparent that you had already asked the question before! 22 years does seem long but if she has not been nice to you in the past, you don't have to open your home to her at all. The kids are grown ups and should realize that as well. If she has been nice and not tried to cause problems with the two of you, then why not let her come over. It makes YOU look better to all involved! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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Have you read the responses to the other three posts you have concerning this?

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Chris, you talking to me or to Gail?
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Gail.

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