Need some tips on how to get husband to engage in negotiating. He continually avoids talking about what his needs are, what he's expecting from me, how I can help him feel more loved. He just won't talk. Any ideas?

Some history:

My husband and i have been separated for one year. We are both in counseling and have been going for one month. The counselor has just recently told me to cut all contact even sexual contact because my h is not giving anything in return. My h and I have a divorce hearing scheduled for February 13.