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My W seems so happy in her decision to divorce and start over. She says that either way if her boyfriend leaves his wife or if he doesn't she would still go for the divorce. I guess in the 3 years I was trying to put back the marriage she was figuring out how to get out, she is certainly prepared for it.<BR>She is also one that once her mind is made up she will do it. I doubt if she will ever look back, it's just not in her. I hate the idea of being a mistake, I will always believe we were supposed to be together with our son.<BR>Just venting, feeling miserable....<BR>
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I'm sorry she seems so resolved. Its' amazing that she can go on like this for three years. Incredible. Its' your life and rather than live like this under this constant reminder of how she feels about you, start picking up what is left and rebuild your life to your specifications. There is no marriage anymore, just your torment. You're not a mistake. She made the mistake and is trying to define you as the mistake. Don't let her do that to you and your son. Chances are she won't go it alone....
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MKN -<P>I'm sorry you're feeling this way and I know what it's like because I feel it too!!!<P>All we can do is put our best foot forward and make ourselves and, in your case your child also, stronger and smarter for the experience.<P>We need to concentrate on us and making our lives happy and fulfilling. If they see it and come along for the ride - then great!! If they don't then it's their loss and we will have put ourselves in a better place without and in spite of them.<P>Someday they will realize that they made a mistake - if not for what they've done to us - then the fact that they ran away from facing and working on the problems in their lives. This is not a way to mature and succeed in life. They will miss out on that important skill.<P>A big HUG to feel better and not so alone!!!<P>Sheba
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