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#63280 07/08/04 01:18 PM
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I am really really unhappy in our marriage. We have been married for almost 4 years but also have only known each for 4 years. We have a 2.5 year old son, and I will do anything for him. I know that the reason why I am so unhappy is because of money, or that it is the main reason. We don't come to agreements on anything, and he thinks that if we keep taking equity from the condo that we only just purchased that we can pay down credit cards as we have a huge debt. We always fight and we definitely don't see eye to eye on anything including how to raise our son. I have read all of the things on this wonderful website, and I brought it home for my husband to read, but that is looking beating a dead horse to get him to do anything but watch tv and do a lot of the household chores.
I am really beginning to resent him and I don't feel any love towards him all the time, I just want affection every so often. I am desperately trying to figure out how I can leave him, but I don't ever come up with a feasible solution because of the threats from him that I am not going to get our son. I am really beginning to wish I never married him.
I feel like I am lying to myself.
There is much much more to all of this and any comments or questions would be appreciated. Thanks.

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Hi Sky, Sorry to hear of your troubles and pain. Do you know if your husband feels the same way? Can you / he go to counselling (together preferably) for the sake of your child? You are fortunate enough that you are still together, so if you truly want it to work, make the most of the opportunity.
My wife feels much the same way as you, but she chose to fix it by starting an Emotional affair (EA) with the defacto of a good friend of hers / ours.
Maybe, like myself, you need top look at how you interact with your partner. Generally, the problem is both parties aren't meeting each others needs in some way or other.
There are some very good posts in the General Questions II area that you should read. I am not sure, but if you post in the General Questions II area, you will get a lot more hits and advice.
Keep your chin up and don't give up. I wish that were the case with my wife / marriage as I now have to try and battle lack of trust as well as the other issues that werenot being addressed. ;-)


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