My husband is in the Army and we have been stationed in europe for 4 years now. He just got back from Iraq after serving 15months. While he was gone I took care of our children and in June 2004 had our third child (which he was not here for). I also held a full-time job for most of that time and made my own money. I teach elementary school but this year I can not work. We are getting ready to go back to the states in Nov so I will be able to get a job then. My problem is while my husband was gone I heard all the time how valuable I was and amazing I was for accomplishing the things I did. I never once heard about the MONEY. Now he is home and he is the only one able to work. We have one car and I am not allowed to use it during the day. He says it is too valuable to his job. He also says that I am not allowed to spend any money without his approval and if I do I hear about it - believe me - so I don't. While he was gone I had complete comtrol and now I am just a house wife and a mother to his three kids that doesn't work or make any money. I am getting really depressed about this and when I mention this to my husband he just says I am being too dramatic and he is just trying to make sure that we have money when we leave to move back to the states. He will be getting atleast $3000 to move and $3000 from our car when we sell it before me leave - I don't think we will have a money issue but he is really hell bent. I can't wait till I can work and make my own money again so he will not be so in control of things. I am 30 years old DAMN IT and I think I can do shopping and spend a reasonable amount of money without putting us in debt. PLEASE give me advice on how to get through this. I am closing up emotionally and slipping away.
Mrs. Army_Wife

<small>[ August 24, 2004, 07:19 AM: Message edited by: Army_Wife98 ]</small>