I'm married almost 33 years to a woman I love very much, yet over almost all of those years my wife is unable to feel comfortable with intimacy and is almost frigidlike to the touch. At this point in my life I want more, as I feel as young as I did years ago. I need affection, passion and romance, if not alot, at least a little bit. Running out of options and looking for some input. Thank you.

33 years is quite an accomplishment, you didnt state yoiur age, but I'm thinking she might be going thru alot of hormonal changes which alter a womans sex drive.Have you both checked this avenue out? There are medicines to help if in fact this is the case. Good luck

HELLO: CAN SOMEONE HELP PLEASE.....FAST...

O-KAY MY H GOT TFER TO A DIFF STATE ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO. THE KIDS AND I ARE IN HOME STATE UNTIL HOUSE SELLS. HE FLIES AND DRIVES AND SO DO I. THE PROBLEMS IS THAT WHEN I ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT HE IS DOING IS GETS MADE AND MEAN. HE HAS A 23 OLD ROOM-MATE AND MY H IS 41 TODAY. HE CALL THIS ROOM-MATE ALOT AND THEY WORK TOGEHTER, EAT LUNCH TOGETHER AND I SEE THIS AS A PROBLEM.

MY H TOLD ME ON WENDESDAY THAT IT IS OVER, HE CAN NOT TAKE IT ANYONE. SAYS THAT I RAN HIM DOWN HAVE BROKE HIM AND FOR ME TO SAY HERE.

HE DOES NOT WANT TO TT TO ME ABOUT NOTHING, SAYS HE IS DONE, CAN NOT TAKE IT ANYMORE. I WANT MY MARRAIGE AND I BELEIVE HE DOES TO, BUT IS MAD AND HURT RIGHT NOW,

I DO NOT WHEN TO STOP AT ANYTHING, WHEN I GET MAD, OR OUT OF CONTROL AND RIGHT NOW I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER MY MARRAIGE OR LIFE.

CAN SOMEONE PLESE HELP. HE IS ON HIS WAY BACK HERE TO SEE OUR CHILD AND FOR HIS B-DAY, BUT IS STAYING AT HIS MOTHER BECAUSE I TOLD HIM TO, BEING MAD AND ALL AND NOW I WANT TO TAKE IT ALL BACK....I LOVE HIM, HE IS EVERYTHING TO ME AND I CAN NOT GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND HOW THIS OUT-OF-STATE THING IS HURTING ME AND HARD FOR ME.

THIS IS MY 2ND MARRAIGE AND HIS 1ST..

MY 1ST H CHEATED ON ME AND TOOK ALOT AWAY FROM ME THAT I HAVE NEVER GOT BACK,

PLEASE HELP.....

KANSAS CITY

Kim,

I would post this on General Questions II if I was you. Tons more people log on there.

I hate to say this, but when my FWH was in his affair he got very very mean and distant. Wouldn't talk to me and so on. He lied constantly about things. Is it possible that your H is having an affair with this roommate?

Even if he isn't, it doesn't sound healthy at all the relationship that you are in. I wouldn't want my husband to be a roommate with another woman. I think that is just setting things up for an A. Also just so many temptations there, while you arent. If you post over on GQII someone over there might be able to help you, but I think you need to have a serious talk with him and find out if he is having an A first before you do anything else. Then read the books Surviving and Affair and this whole site. Get educated on the Plans A & B and get into one asap.

Good Luck.

HINY