My H and I have been married for 13 years. We have two children D12 and S10. We have always been in the church and he is a licensed minister. He has always wanted his own church. He tried to start one 2 years ago and it failed due to lack of money and planning. Well, he goes and try it again this year with the same problems, lack of money and planning. I have never said he could not have a church. My opinion is you must be able to financially support the church if you do not have any members in the beginning which he does not. He takes that as not being supportive. Anyway he started his church with no extra money. He has been using our money and borrowing money from friends. We are behind on our mtg. because he paid the church rent instead of the mtg. We are also behind on the car note, utility bill and a few CC bills. I cannot get excited about the church because it has put us in a bad financial situation. We have never been able to come to an agreement on this. He views my opinion has negative and non-supportive. This time he did not get my opinion on starting a church. I heard him talking about renting a bldg. and the next thing I know he is making a deposit. The rent is $1,000/mth. I don't see us lasting very long because I cannot get pass this. I am still angry and he started the church in August. We are not connected at all. We do not spend anytime together and barly talk now. He has had to get a 2nd job to support the church so he is never home. On the weekends he is off doing his church work and doesn't seem to care about me. I use to talk to him about my EN but he never listens and thinks I am to needy. We are going to counseling starting next week. I have my doubts that it will work because he is so head strong. I am not sure if I want it to work since I have been emotionally detached from him for so long. I would appreciate any ideas or comments.