I have been marrieed for about 5 yrs. I have a 9 year old and my husband has a 19 & 21 year old. I have recently moved so my son and I could be safe because my husband tried to kick me out of his house. It is common knowledge that my son sleeps with me while my husband is out of town. My husband deems it necessary to ask me these questions over and over even though it is common knowledge. AOne particular evening whil he was in Houston, he asked me this same question again, and I decided to pacify him by saying no. Even though I have been a very faithful and honorable wife, he had installed a web cam in our bedroom without telling me. He is a tekie. Anyway, when I picked him up at the airport the next day, all he could do was call me a lair. I couldn't deal with the harrassment while driving, so I asked him to get out of the car. After a struggle, he finally got out and told me "not to be home when he got home". When he got home he tried to kick me out of his house. can't and couldn't. at least for 30 days. Anyway, I have now moved and he wants me back?????? I got a lease on alternative housing because I have a child and I needed a place to be safe for the both of us. He has involved his family by using his brother's attorney and the first thing out of his mouth nis "DIVORCE". How do I deal with going back? Family, because his is so important to him? Me and my son of 9. It is so hard to make any decisions. I love my husband and want ou relationship to work, but under the circumstances, sometimes it feels better to let this whole situation go. His 19 year old son at the age of 15 was "curious" one day and decided to "peek" in on me while I was sleeping, half naked!!!! How do I try to make our "family" work so our marriage can work. THis is confusing and I hope I have made sense. Just need some feedback.

May just be me, but sounds like there are no boundries. if I put a cam in our beedromm my wife would kick my a** in a heartbeat.

I hope you don't get offended by my comments, but I am the mother of two sons. I think that it is sickening that you allow your 9 year old son to sleep with you while your husband isn't at home. Have you ever heard of the Oedipus Syndrome. Please read that book and you will find that you are emotionally handicapping your son. Soon, your son will start developing sexual desires if he hasn't already. He will also awake every morning with an erection. Usually boys start getting an erection at his age, and lying next to a fully developed woman with an erection is not a good idea. Please remember that males are physical creatures and his desires for physical stimulation will start soon. You are being unreasonable by allowing your son to lie in bed with you over night at his age. I have read several books on boys and their sexuality and I find it disturbing that you see nothing wrong with allowing a young man his age to sleep with you. If you are doing it because of your fears of being alone, you need to find peace another way and stop exposing your son to that kind of intimacy with his mother.

I thought it said 5 year old.

At the age of 9 this is going to lead to an unhealthy bond. That needs to end.

HI, I appreciate all the comments, my problem however is not my son, I know what is needed in that situation an am doing the best I can. however, since this is a "marriage" site, I thought I would get adivce on a marital problem. I feel that my husband is more jealous of my son because we are close. He is involved in sports, tutoring etc., if I am not at home with my husband, I am running errands. My schedule is leave at 6:30 am and not get home until about 7:00. I feel the problem is more of an obsessive husband via him knowing my schedule, just not paying attention to the obvious. My son sleeps with me soooooo....seldom, now that we are moved out, I was just asking about the other probs, his son, his insecurities of being a man in a marriage with a wife that has always been faithful and his going behind my back to find out information that is not there!! I know we need to talk but whenever we do, he wants more for him than I get for myself. That is the problem, not my son. Not only that, but I am the only woman in a house of male adults and feel that they "could" overcome me because of the passe way things have been handled in them past. My h thought what is 15 year old did was just curiosity? and we cannot talk - he "TELLS" me not talks to me

And let me guess, he says no to MC or IC correct?

just getting a real post to the top