I am ashamed and embarrassed to admit that our courtship consisted of wild sex and lots of partying. After 5.5 years of marriage, the sex is no longer wild and we have outgrown the "partying" After reading obout the importance of sharing recreational companionship, I am really worried about our marriage. Any ideas?

I'm a little unclear as to why tame sex and no partying makes you worry about the marriage in terms of recreational companionship... aren't there other recreational things you could do together? If you're ashamed and embarrassed by the activities you used to do together, you shouldn't be upset that certain activities aren't done anymore... it sounds like you wouldn't enjoy that time together in those activities anyway!<P>There are dozens of things you and your H could do together that would fulfill the need of each of you for recreational companionship. Have you bought the workbook that goes along with His Needs, Her Needs and LoveBusters? It has a very long list (4 or 5 pages if memory serves) of various recreational activities. Consider sports (watching or playing, anything from bowling to wrestling, football to ice skating) and cultural activities like concerts or plays, museums, etc. As long as it's an activity you both enjoy and you're doing it together, it's recreational companionship.

It may have consisted of wild sex, but have you thought that you both may have grown closer. Never forget, we still get these wild time as we grow older.<P>If you want to make hungry jungle love again, go to the forest or make it happen in the bedroom. Go for it and share the excitement AGAIN. Good Luck