I have been married for a little over one year and am already very unhappy. We have been together since we were 15 years old (5 years). We started sleeping together a couple of months after we started dating and then moved in together at the age of 18. I then got pregnant and gave birth to our son at 19. A few months after he was born, we got married. Now I feel like I am traped. I'm not quite sure if I married him because I thought we could make it last or if I did it because we already had a child together and it was just a logical next step. Recently I have been wondering about a person from my past. Always in the back of my mind. I am wondering if he was the one I should have been with all along. But when the choice came, I choose my husband. Did I make the wrong choice. He was more like me. But when I had to choose, I had already been with my husband for 2 years. I had very stron feelings for this other guy and now I am left wondering. I want to contact the other guy and see if there is anything still there. See if all of this is just in my head or did I make a mistake. HELP!<P>------------------<BR>Dalani

I could understand how you feel, and I pray things work out favorably. What you need to do is do some real analysis by yourself and later on with your husband what your (both) needs are. Because it seems to me that your needs are not being met. <P>PLEASE DO NOT CONSIDER THIS NEW GUY UNTIL YOU'VE EXPLOITED EVERY OPTIONS KNOWN TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE.<P>Please see a counselor, a good marriage counselor and discuss things. This new guy that keeps on flashing at the back of your mind, is a dangerous situation. <P>Good Luck<BR>

I don't even know where to begin. It sounds like you're really hurting. <BR>First of all, there is not one person out there that is "The One." How do you think pre-arranged marriages work. You made those vows because you are committed to your marriage (as long as you both shall live!)<BR> I understand how you could doubt, because your marriage was not necessarily based on ooey-gooey feeling, but on obligation (because of your pregnancy). That is a perfectly valid reason for commitment. <BR>Honestly, I don't know how marriages can last without Jesus Christ at the center of them. <BR>I believe that your thoughts about that person of your past are put there by Satan to attempt to destroy your marriage (because marriage is God's greatest institution, besides our relationship with him). Pray against those thoughts and replace them with the most positive thoughts you can think about your husband. i.e.) He loves your son. He's commited to you. He provides for you both, etc.<BR>Do not even think of exploring what might have been. You are in what is, and you need to make the best of it!!<BR>In Him,<BR>Elisa

You are feeling this way because you committed at a very early age in your life, and you didn't really explore for yourself, thats ok though. Your married for the reason that you have a kid with him and that you love him(hopefully). Your blast from the past is history, YOUR HISTORY, I suggest to keep it that way and just look forward into your life. From first hand experience, the past can intensly haunt you. SO just move on with you and your husband.