Thanx for the advice folks, not too positive though! One thing I forgot to mention was that after the move last year, we never saw each other for a month. We then made up early in this year and he said to me one night that he isn't proposing but that he is ready for marriage and kids. That is unfortunately not very reassuring as to what will happen to my future with him. So I have thought about this and after weighing up several options and approaches, it seems the only way I will find answers to all my questions, is to discuss all the issues with him in detail. Yes, I do basically do and give him everything I can, 'cause I love him, and from his side, well basically the only thing that will change is the righ on the finger. I can stop sleeping over and back-off a bit, but that's playing games and I don't want to play games and besides, there is still the issue at hand and playing games isn't going to give me answers. I agree, why would he want to marry me if I give him everything he wants and needs, hell, it just isn't worth the financial burden? Well I know what I want and I'm not in this relationship for a fling and if he cannot commit the way I need it to be, then I guess its time to move on. I will let you folks know what happened.