I am a 24 years old guy and have been engaged since Thanksgiving to a girl I have been dating for over 2 years. Our wedding has been set for July of this year. In the past few weeks however, my finacee has been expressing fears about the upcoming marriage. She comes from a history of bad marriages. Her mother is on her fourth marriage, her dad on her second, and her sister just got divorced after four terrible years of marriage. She thinks everything changes once people get married, i.e. the love fades and the co-existing phase soon sets in. We have been living apart for almost 10 months now, her in Texas and me in New York. She is only 21 and as such still as some schooling to finish up in Texas (at the same school I graduated from). We have struggled through the long-distance arrangement, but our love for one another has actually grown stronger. I have decided to move back to Texas (a questionable move professionally) to be with her. I have had to make major life-changing decisions to make this marriage happen, and now she tells me she has these fears. I really don't know what to do at this point, I feel she is rejecting me and threatening the entire relationship. She has told me that she would prefer to postpone the wedding (indefinetly, I guess) until she can come to grips with these fears. She says she still loves and wants to be with me, but she's just not mentally ready for marriage. I feel like I have had to make major sacrifices to be with her in Texas, and for her to back out now is a slap in the face. I'm really not sure whether or not I should be with her at all any more, because my confidence level in the relationhship is at rock bottom due to her nagging doubts. She may have done irreparable harm here, and I'm thinking it may be best just to walk away. I'm at a loss here, she's making me weak, insecure and unconfident and that is not the person I want to be. What should I do?
