Hi! My story is this. I got divorced and met a man a year ago on the internet. We seemed to be very well connected. We have a lot in common. And we seemed to want the same things in life. After we met in person, that included taking trips to Florida, he asked me to move in with him. I did this with my two sons. Things started out ok and seemed to progress nicely. We got engaged and felt we were soul mates. This would be my third marriage and his first. (My previous marriages ended 1st one due to him being someone who loved to be sexual with other women and make several babies 2nd He came from an abusive family and was abusive to us, he hated and couldn't handle being responsible). When I met this gentleman, I at first felt he was too young for me. (my last was young too) and me being older was what he wanted. Not to mention I had two biracial boys. He wanted a wife who was black and the biracial children were what he'd always looked for but had never found till we met. So I agreed that our love would overcome my past marriages and that we would be the family I've always wanted but never had. Then after we moved in, got engaged, I learned how addicted to the internet he really was. We have faught over it and I have cried many nights over it. I feel cheated and that talking sexually to anyone on the internet is cheating, he calls in entertainment and tells me he knows where to draw the line and that he would never cross it. How do I learn to deal with this? Am I wrong? Or are we both wrong. Do I need to change the way I am looking at this internet thing? I feel with him talking so sexually explicit to other women, that it will lead to phone numbers being exchanged and then meeting and then sex. I am also jealous of the time that he devotes to his internet "friends" as I feel I am not getting the same attention he gives them. I don't mind that he talks to females on the net, I talk to other men, just not sexually, nor to I hide what I am doing. He does. He tells me that this is his private business. I don't know what else to do. We have postponed getting married and decided to try going to counseling. But when he tells me he will NEVER change what he does as it is just entertainment and I will have to learn to deal with it or we will split up, how do I deal with something like that? Or should I even try? He says he loves me dearly and would not cross the line. Then I ask, if that is so, why be so secretive about it? Why say it is his private business? Is there privacy such as this in relationships? I really want help with this and I need to know what to do.
