I've recently been seperated from my wife by her choice. I am new to the net but find great comfort in Talk radio. Today was our first visit with our counselor things went as well as can be expected. My income at the present time will not allow me to purchase the books that I would like to so I read all the literature that i could find on this site and worked out the questioners. Painfully so my spouse doesn't share my excitement I cant really blame her Ive been very controlling and abusive to her Strange ways to treat someone you love.... I want to thank the creators of this site for giving us troubled souls a place to heal!!!!!

funny how u start out with ''m separated from my wife bu her choice' and how u admit that u were manipulative and abusive. how do u expect her to still be with you?!?!?!!!
anyhow, i hope counseling work for the best but in the end it's her decision.
best of luck! keep us posted

Hello Troubled! I see you mentioned counseling. Are you also going to individual counseling? It may help you understand why you behaved the way you did, and ultimately help resolve those issues. I also think that your W could also benefit from individual counseling.<p>I was married to an abusive man. Both physically and emotionally. My last bf was emotionally abusive, controlling, manipulative. See a pattern? Something that was hard for me was being able to stand on my own. Why did I accept the abuse? <p>I think you both can learn a lot about yourselves. You can use this separation to focus on yourself and learn about your behavior patterns. It will benefit both of you and perhaps if you ever decide to work it out, you will be amazed at what your growth will do for your relationship.<p>Are you able to go to the library for some books? Or maybe get some from an on line auction? I have a friend that got a lot of books on line for a fraction of the retail cost.<p>Good luck!!!<p>Clear