LSadBlueEyes:I am sorry that this change has occurred. Even if you didn't see this lastest coming, don't get discouraged. Have you read the book by Dr.Harley "Surviving the Affair"??I would recommend you take a look at it. This is normal in the ways spouses can react-moving out. I don't think that you are a pushover. I think that you are confused and grasping at straws with the pleading....I can understand how powerless you feel. You will get through this...don't give up. I know you love your husband and want your marriage to work. If you read the book mentioned above it will give you a timeline to go by in this situation. Some people tend to overact to their emotions and not think clearly with their head. I am NOT saying this is what you are doing...that we all have done this due to the stress, shock and pain we are experiencing. Take some deep breaths and think before you react to anything he will say or do in the next few weeks. I am not a counselor but have read ALL the books by Dr.Harley and he is consistent in his advice. I will check back in a few to see how you are doing. Peace

Okay I'll do that and again Thank You so much. I really do feel like im going crazy here. Whoa! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Ok today is Tues am I am finally home from the hospital. I had a way crappy weekend, Husband came over took the computer, I bought a new one. He tried to take stepsons bedroom furniture that I paid for (before marriage) I said no. At this point I dont feel like making things "comfortable" for him at my expense. That caused a rage in him he blew up etc etc. So later in the day, I start having chest pains. I ended up passing out, had a seizure for abt 10 minutes so I was told, EMS was called by my son . My mom was freaking out (bless her heart) they rush me to the ER where I'm hooked up to all kinds of stuff and then Im told I had a mild heart attack <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I asked my 19 year old son to call my husband. Husband thinks Im doing this to get his attention etc. I get admitted and am scheduled for stent surgery first thing in the morning. Husband never shows nor contacts me but told my son he'll pray for me. Real supportive guy. Well as you can see I made it, and am home now. Decided to pull my name off our joint bank account(already done) and am strongly considering divorce now. After all, really, he hasn't been there for me at all. Makes me wonder if I had died if he would have even shown up to my funeral. So ya'll, I am making progress while I recoperate. Thats a good thing. Just don't know how or where to start over. Clubs arent my thing( meat market) singles line...who knows. But for now, Im taking time for me to heal inside and out. Thanks for letting me vent again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

hi everyone
I'm new here and I would need some support from anyone. I'm living a very confused situation. In a way I broke up with my boyfriend(we've been together for 2 years, we don't live together anymore, he is saying that he doesn't know if he loves me anymore but we still talk on the phone and we meet. i am very confused because I don't know what is going to happen next because he says that he doesn't know if he wants to save our relationship but he doesn't always act that way. I care a lot for him, I miss him, I need him and I am very hurt that we end up here.All day I'm thinking about this and I feel that I'm going crazy. I would like to find something to do and forget about this but I can't. Please help me to get thru this. Thanks

OK. Now someone tell me how to turn off my heart. When I see him it hurts. I try not to outwardly cry, but sometimes I cant help it. He's so darned distant like he has no emotion at all. I re-begin my counselling on Monday which Im looking forward to. Ive tried contacting the MB "s in reference to thier weekend workshop, which Im sure if I oaid for it he would go. The only problem is my husband is deaf and would require an interpreter. I emailed them asking if acomidations would be provided and havent heard back yet. I dont want to go on with life without him, and yet I dont want to keep hurting forever either. It hurts he's living in his shop, sleeping on a mattress eating top ramen and tuna. Loosing weight. He's made a prison to retreat to. If I do help him will it be benificial? Or prolong the enivitable? How long is a good time to wait? I have a million questions> Taken up painting by numbers to occupy myself and trying to relax. I have follow up with my cardiologist next week. Thanks and Happy Mother's Day to all you Mothers and single Dad's raising children. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Still have unanswered questions. Help.

LSAD,

I think the best thing you could do is move your post to either GQ2 or JFO boards there is more traffic there and you would be better served to get some questions anwsered .. I am sorry for your pain.. L&C

Thank You L&C I'll try that.

Ok, Baba2, i'm sorry, but from now on, please don't answer posts. I"ve read a couple of your comments in different posts, and you come off very abrasive. People are here for advice, something constructive, yet you focus on a point that doesn't even pertain to the situation. "ignore his porn collection" what the hell?? The subject of the matter is not his "porn collection" but his possible infidelity, and emotional dispondancy with his wife. In another post about someone with a low libido, you told them they shouldn't have sex before marriage. Please offer constructive advice. Now in response to the main subject... He doesn't seem happy, nor sensitive to your feelings. I'm sure you've told him how you feel, and things have come up in marriage counselling. Have you guys tried the concepts on this site? Lovebusters, quality time together of 15 hours a week. If he wants it to work it really can work. But i do not agree that he should move out. Not sure when this post was posted, so sorry if this is a little late. Make sure he tries to work on it before moving out, because once he does, that will most likely be the end.

omg i'm sorry i didn't see page 2, i just started saying my piece about baba2, then thought i'd throw in my 2 cents, sorry ignore all advice from me except the choice words to baba2 thx