MY HUSBAND AND HIS MOM HAVE ME AT MY WITS END!!
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 8 YEARS AND MARRIED 3. WE HAVE NO CHILDREN.
WE WENT THROUGH INTENSIVE COUNSELING ABOUT THIS ISSUE WITH HIS MOM BEFORE WE MARRIED AND I MARRIED HIM BECAUSE FIRST I LOVE HIM AND SECOND THE ISSUE WAS HANDLED.
MY HUBBY'S PARENTS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR OVER 34 YEARS. MY FATHER IN LAW IS AN ALCOHOLIC,DRUG ADDICT AND ADULTERER. MY HUSBAND WAS STILL LIVING AT HOME WHEN WE MET AND HE WAS THE FATHER FIGURE IN THE HOUSEHOLD, MEETING FINANCIAL AND EMOTIONAL NEEDS FOR HIS MOTHER AND SISTER'S.
HIS MOTHER TOLD ME NO MATTER IF I MARRIED HER SON "I WOULD BE NO DIL OF HERS" AND SHE IS MAKING GOOD ON IT. MY HUSBAND TOLD ME WITHIN THE PAST YEAR THAT HIS MOM ADMITTED TO HAVING JEALOUSY AND RESENTMENT TOWARDS ME AND OUR RELATIONSHIP. BUT HER EXCUSE WAS THAT OUTSIDERS SHOULD NOT BE CHOSEN OVER FAMILY AND HE HAS A RESPONSIBILTY TO THEM.
I CAN DEAL WITH HER PETTINESS, BUT MY HUSBAND ALLOWS HIS FAMILY TO DISRESPECT ME IN HIS FACE AND DOES NOT EVEN FLINCH AND WHEN I TELL HIM MY FEELINGS ARE HURT ABOUT BEING BEGRUDGED, HE PASSES IT OFF AS NOTHING AND THEN BECOMES IRATE AND BELITTLES ME. THIS HAS HAPPENED 3 TIMES IN THE LAST YEAR. THE MOST RECENT INCIDENT SURROUNDS HIS FATHER'S FAMILY REUNION: HE SAYS HIS MOM INFORMED HIM VIA ONE OF HIS PHONE CALLS FROM WORK
OVER A MONTH AGO THAT THE REUNION WAS PLANNED AND THERE WAS AN INVITATION FOR BOTH OF US, THE REUNION WAS THIS PAST WEEKEND. WE WERE OUT HIS PARENTS HOME THE MONDAY BEFORE AND HIS MOM SAYS TO MY HUBBY WHILE I STAND THERE" ARE YOU COMING TO THE FAMILY REUNION?" HE SAYS KNOW I HAVE TO WORK AND THEN THERE WAS NO INVITATION TO SEE IF I WANTED TO GO OR EVEN JUST SIMPLY GIVE US BOTH THE INVITE. MY HUSBAND DOES NOT SEE WHAT THE BIG DEAL IS AND THAT IS WHAT DISGUST ME THE MOST.
THERE IS A BLATANT DISREGARD TOWARDS ME AS A PERSON,HIS WIFE AND A PART OF HIS FAMILY. I HAVE TRIED TO MEND FENCES,I HAVE KISSED BUTT,LITERALLY TURNED MYSELF INSIDE OUT AND NOTHING IS EVER GOOD ENOUGH. EVEN WHEN SHE IS BEING RUDE AND SELFISH TO ME I CONTINUE TO RESPECT HER. THOUGH I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT I HAVE HAD A FEW CHOICE WORDS IN PRIVATE ABOUT HER AND THIS SITUATION.
I'M TRULY CONTEMPLATING SEPARATION FROM MY HUSBAND. HE WANTS TO TRY COUNSELING, BUT I HAVE BEEN THERE DONE THAT TWICE AND HIS BEHAVIOR IS JUST RECYCLICAL. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!!
