Me and my BF have been dating off and on for almost 2 years. He has had some problems with OW, but that has been much better as far as I can tell for a while. He's been living with me and my two sons for about 4 mths. He is excellent with my children. We do have different problems sometimes but I thought this would be the best to bring up to the group. I WANT TO MEET HIS SON. Like I said he is great with me and my boys I have expressed to him on several occassions that it is important to me that his son be able to come and share in his life and that I can not allow him to stay and spend everyday hanging out and playing with my children without invinting his soon. I want him to get his soon every other weekend. He always has an excuse. We are on the verge of breaking up and this is one of the big reasons why, but I love him and I just want some opinions. Am I being un resonable or am I just being a stand up women and mom. The other problem that we have is he sometimes does not take some of my most important ENs seriously. And he thinks when I stop talking about the things I want and we're laughing and having a good time - that those things don't exist anymore. So basically, I haven't given him an ultimatum about meeting his son, but I feel like I've said enough to let him no that it is important to me and I feel like if I'm not complaining about it, it's not anywhere on his mind and he tricks himself into believing it's gone away, but it hasn't.
This guy is wonderful with kids - all kids but the worst part is maybe he's just a dead beat dad and when the time comes he'll do the same to me and my children or maybe the fact that his son is not in "our" picture say's something about his commitment to our relationship.
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Ms.Dating
Junior Member
Member # 38413
posted March 21, 2005 02:21 PM
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Oh yeah, he wants me to let him do things on his own time. But he moved in with us and we share our entire lives with him and I'm ready for him to match my investment into this relationship. P.S - I have met many members of his family, many of times.
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