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How long is long enough?
#65119 08/05/98 08:55 PM
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My wife and I have been separated for 5 months after being married less than 2 years.
<br>This is our second marriage to each other. I married her 6 years ago knowing she was pregneant with someone elses child. She was unfaithful after the first week with the baby's father and so we divorced. 3 years later we remarried and had a second child. I adopted the first. I have not cheated on her, abused her, and do not have any addictions. I was not a perfect husband, but I don't think I deserved this. I love my wife dearly. She says she loves me and 'hopes' everything turns out with us still together. She shows me no real affection. We are going to counseling. But I don't think her heart is in it. I feel like I am being naive hoping she will come back. How long is long enough to wait?
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#65120 08/05/98 10:57 PM
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Ryan,
<p>The best advice I ever got was that I would know when it was time to let go and move on. I think we know in our minds when its over. If you love her then try to make it work. And for some of us going through the pain is just to make us strong so that when the time does come we don't fall into the same trap. If you are honest with yourself then you will know when it is time. Good Luck [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]
<br>Steph
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#65121 08/07/98 12:24 AM
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<br>Stpeh gives sound advice, and I agree with her. I have been told that once a person cheats, he or she will always cheat. I am not so sure that I believe that...I am an unfaithful spouse (let me clarify I had an affair of the heart..and on-line affair and never met the man) I cannot imagine ever putting my husband or myself through anything so painful ever again. We have spent a lot of time talking to each other and I know in my heart that he is the only man for me. But I know that not all people are the same...some people cannot control their urges to be with more than one person.
<br>The only thing I can tell you to do is give it time...like Steph said...you will know in your heart when is the right time to move on. Good Luck to you!
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#65122 08/15/98 09:00 AM
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To Steph and Killian
<br> Would you two read what I have posted in "other topics Subject What can I do?
<br> Would like your comments also.
<br> How much do I give and say Enough is Enough.
<br> I have been depositing love units in the bank, for example She and her girl friend to the kids to a Water park today. The first thing I did was put a card in the beach bag to tell her How much i love her. Then when she left I told her How much i will be thinking of her today.
<br> She has the cell phone with her think i will call her and tell her How much i miss her. good idea?
<br> Iam making these deposits but don't see the account growing. Is she withdrawing more then Iam depositing?
<p> thanks
<br> Jim
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