My wonderful husband and I have a terrible sex life - it was never great but I thought it would get better. He says he is not a romantic and doesn't like to be "kissy" and "gushy" (which means he doesn't want to touch me at all). His idea of sex is to lie back and have me give him a blow job. I tried to accomodate him until I have become frigid! He also wears the grossest thong underwear you can imagine (though I have asked him not to), and I have caught him watching gay porno on the internet (he says by mistake). His latest thing is shaving his balls - I can't stand to touch them, but I guess he can't stand to touch me either. We have a good life together, good friends, building a business, etc. but this sex thing is making such tension in our house. Any suggestions? I have asked him point blank if he might be a homosexual and he got real mad and promised me that he absolutely was NOT. He says he just enjoys the underwear and shaving his balls and he doesn't like to kiss and do foreplay? Help. Am I crazy ?
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Hi carolsue,<P>I just happened upon your post from August and am wondering if you are still out there somewhere. If you are, or if someone else reads this, consider this:<P>Regarding lack of kissing, touching, and foreplay... Is sex equal to sexual fulfillment?<P>Not according to numerous experts on the subject including Harley.<P>Your H has a sexual fulfillment and intimacy problem which needs to be addressed for you both to have a fulfilling life together.<P>If you want to learn more, there are good books out on the subject including:<P>Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat, M.D., and his wife<BR>The Gift of Sex by Clifford Penner and his wife<P>If you are still out there, let me know if you saw this. <P>Hugz and prayers,<BR>Thoughtful (Deb)<BR>