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#65155 08/12/98 11:05 AM
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My wife told about a month ago that she had an affair. She told me this after we had started seeing a marriage counsler and I had really started to focus on our marriage.
<br>I understand that it is just as much my fault as it is hers. Probably more so mine because I didn't give her the emotional support she needed even when she told me i wasn't. This Question is to anybody that has been in my position before. I have not made love to my wife in almost a month in a half. Whenever I try to initiate sex she tells me that she is not ready. When I ask her what she means she tells me that she needs to sort through her feelings and guilt. I try to understand this but it is hard and really hurts me. If anybody has ever felt the way I or my wife feels please send me f your advice. Will she ever come through this? She says that she loves me and needs time. I am willing to do anything to save my marriage. I don't want it to end in divorce. I have started practiceing some of Dr. Harley's technics and so far they seem to be helping. What is going in in my wifes head. I love her dearly and can't express that enough.
<p>please respond on this bulliton or
<br>bob_matulovich@hotmail.com
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DearBob,
<br>Iwentthroughastagesimulartoyours.
<br>Yourwifeismostlikelylikemostwomenshe
<br>needstobestimulatednotjustphysicallybutemotionally.Ifyouwishtoinitiate
<br>intimacy,startearlyintheday.Leavenotes
<br>orcallherfromwork,YoucanneversayI
<br>lovetoooften.Bringherflowerswhenyou
<br>comehomefromworkoracard.Getheroutofthehouseforaromanticdinneretc..


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