K,
<br>Thanks for the word. My wife is actually a pretty mature lady in most areas. I know that she wouldn't be online so much if our relationship was what it should be.
<br>I have never asked her not to be online. I know she likes it and I know it would be a mistake for me to interfer with it. So as much as I dislke it I live with it.
<br>But the amounts of time she spends on it are great. At any rate I think your advice is probably the best choice I have right now. thanks.

Jim,
<p>I'm not an expert by any means, but I know that marriage is tough and I've been to a therapist. Therapy helped my husband and me express our feelings in without fear and we were able to work things out. To save this marriage it'll take an effort from both of you. You should ask her if she wants this marriage to work. If she doesn't, then nothing you can do will keep you together. If she does, seek therapy and keep the line of communication open. About the other man, this is trouble. I know from my own experience that a man pursuing a frienship with a committed woman wants much more than friendship. She's extremely vulnerable right now and sharing her feelings with him instead of you won't help your marriage! If she needs someone to talk to and doesn't feel she can talk to you, send her to private therapy. You have every right to ask her not to talk to him. You are her husband and she made a vow to you. Good luck and I hope you two decide to work things out. Too many people give up when the going gets tough and that's a bad message to send to your children.
<p>Take care,
<br>Toni