As I said in an earlier post, my wife and I have been separated since March. Things have gotten better since then because a week after we separated she wanted a divorce. That option seems to have taken a back seat and we are going to counseling. I am just confused about how to take some things. I am looking for signs that things are getting closer to restoration. She has in the past week told me she loves me without me having to say it first. That hasn't happened in months. We seem to be getting along very well amidst the confusion of having separate houses ( we have two children). She even gave me a kiss on the cheek today. I think these things are positive, but I am so afraid to "get my hopes up". My counselor said that her heart was 'frozen' and will need time to 'melt'. Are these sure signs that it is 'melting'? I have not pressured her at all and try to be as loving as possible. I love my wife with all my heart and I miss our closeness dearly. What do you all think?
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As a woman I would have to say that it sounds like she is "softening" up. However, as wonderful as that is, don't read too much into it and by that I suppose what I really mean is, continue at the pace you've been taking and let her do all the leading.
<p>Good luck and it sounds good!

Ryan,
<p>Its good to see that things are going better. These sure look like good signs to me and I would take them as that. But just like Marie says, don't rush forward. Still go at this pace and she will come around. We often forget that it took a long time to get to this point and want it to be fixed right away. Sometimes it take even longer to fix it but in the end you will have something better than you had before. Keep up the good work.
<br>Steph