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What is best for childern?
#65224 08/20/98 01:40 PM
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My wife will be moving out next week, and we can't decide on how we will arrange where our daughter lives. Our daughter is 5 years old and will be starting kindergarten. My wife wants her to spend every school night with her. I could visit during the week from 3pm-7pm. I would have her on friday and saturday nights. I don't like this arrangement. I have suggested that we try her plan, but switch weeks on where she stays. My wife says that is not in the best intrest of our daughter. My wife is dealing only from the taker's position. She is expecting me to give in to her, especially if there is any chance for a reconciliation.
<p>1.What are some good child sharring arrangements?
<p>2. Am I being stubborn, and self-centered because I don' like her plan.
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Re: What is best for childern?
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My wife and I have been separated for 5 months. We have a 5 year old and a 1 year old. The best advice I can give is this...do what is in the child's best interests and not yours or hers. During divorce or separation children feel compelled to "choose" a parent. We have found that equal time at each of our homes has been best. And, if at all possible, try to have "family time". Children need an intact home, and that is the worst thing about any situation like this. Giving them time with both of you at once is (at least it seems to be with our kids) better than not at all. I hope this helps.
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#65226 08/21/98 08:27 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I guess I will do what she wants, so I at least have a chance of working things out. Seperation SUCKS!!

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