Should a 30-something man who has no children nor has ever been married, marry a women with children and who is divorced???

Patrick,
<p>It depends how that man feels about children. If he knows that he can love them as his own and help her raise them then he should. You must also keep in mind that you will have to also deal with the exhusband alot because of visitation. When you are with a woman that already has children they are a part of the package, and they deserve someone in their life that can love them and help them grow up to be caring human beings. I know of many men that have married into families when they didn't have children of their own and it has been great for both sides.
<br>Steph

Patrick,
<br> I have to agree with Steph on this one. A woman who has children IS a package deal. Have you been around these kids a lot? How do you interact with them, and they with you?
<br>I know from being a child of a divorced mother, that the way you treat these kids is very important. I have vivid memories of my mothers boyfriend getting very angry when I was sick and my mother spent time with me instead of going out with him. They dated for a few years and I dont recall him ever saying more than a few words to me during that time. He treated me as if I was invisible. Children need love and respect, and they need people in their lives that they can count on. If you dont feel that you are the 'right man for the job' (so to speak) then maybe you should consider marrying a woman with no kids. Also, (and I know this from experience) ex's can be very unpleasant to deal with. I can honestly say that my exhusband and I get along very well (most of the time) we work together on visitation, and are both very flexible. My husbands exwife however is a real pain in the wazoo! So, you must really think long and hard about your situation. If you love this woman, and he kids then by all means...go for it! My 'motto' when I was a single, dating mother was this "Love my kids before you love me"
<p>Good luck to you!