Bruce,
<br>The BIG BOOK I refer to is what N/A uses to teach their members that participate. Many in the program refer to it as their Bible. It's funny, because my wife was raised a very devote Catholic and now she has been led to believe that the program is based on God, but it really isn't, because the Bible teaches that marriage and family are special and should ever be taken lightly.
<br>Maybe I should have said in my post that I am very thankful that she is clean, but at the cost of the family and marriage, is a high price to pay, when there are ways to do it and maintain a relationship that was once very special.
<br>I know in my heart that she still loves me, but she has been convinced that she has to do what she is doing in order for her to stay clean, and now she is so involved with her program and her SPONSOR, (a woman) that she can't admit that maybe, just maybe they aren't completely right in what they teach. From my own experience, most, not all, but most of those who depend on n/a do so because they can't come to terms with their own defeciencies, and need to be reassured that they are addicts and always will be. But I don't believe that, for if I did, I would probably use again when times get tough or I don't want to face reality.
<br>She won't go to counseling and I think it may be that she is worried that I may be just a little bit right in my opinions. Now bear in mind I have told her repeatedly that I will support her in the program, but not at the cost of hurting our boys and destroying our family.
<br>Any more advice would be appreciated.
<p>John
