Bruce,
<br>I too feel like I have been swimming against a current, and not getting anywhere. No change in her attitude. Nothing. Just more confusion.
<br>Another thing that bothered me was that my wife told me last night that parents of my daughter's friend just split up. It sort of pushed how close I am to that.
<br>I keep thinking how long I am going to last, without any movement in my relationship. Just the fact that someone can make love to you one minute, and not want you to touch them the next, confuses the h--l out of me. I'm getting a little tired of being constantly hurt by the person I love most.

I never thought there was a lot wrong with porn. In fact, my wife and I even watched some together. Luckily, she is twice as attractive as anything we ever saw in those things. But it IS wrong! It takes the intimacy out of sex. There IS a difference between making and having sex, and no one in a porno is ever making love. The thing that turned me against it completely was something I heard Dr Laura say...that's someone's daughter, mother, or maybe even wife you are seeing. Having 2 daughters of my own, that really put it in perspective. My wife and I are divorcing, and it has been tempting, since it has been 8 months since we have been intimate. Porn would only make it easier for me to have a mental picture of her with someone else, and I really don't need that. Hope this helps.
<br> Ryan

KS I understand what you are going through I have the same problem here. But its not just the magaizines its the porno on the net as well. I told him I didnt like it but he does it when IM asleep or im gone he says all men do it. I think there is somthing wrong with me. I love sex and I try new things all the time. NAd he says he loves me as well but if this is true why must he go to these sites all the tim and look at these women? Ill never understand my husband at all. He says its in a mans bllod to look at nude women if they didnt the would be quiere or would have founbd another. He also looks at other women and even gives them compliments in front of me. I cant handle it anymore I ahve lost it I fell as though Im nothing anymore its liek im here when he needs me and thats it!