All,
<p>My wofe doesn't seem to want to put forth any effort to resolve our problem. I know from Dr. Harley's books that while in a state of withdrawl they don't want to. But my wife does plenty of other things with energy.
<br>What I'd like to know is there anyone who has gotten things worked out while the other spouse dragged their feet this way?
<br>I know that Doug said phone counseling was successful for him even with minimal participation from his wife. My wife has this attitude that she can't be helped even though many people have been helped in worse cases than ours. Is that just pessimism and tiredness talking? She is not that pesimistic about anything else. I feel that if I can just get her exposed to something it would help. Getting her to participate is the trick.
<br>Doug, if you read this could you let me know something about how you got your wife to participate and what her reactions were? If I don't get a handle or some minimum level of stability on this thing soon I just don't know what will happen. Thanks in advance for anybody's input.

KS,
<p>Gee, KS. Can I get you to call my wife and give me plug? No, I'm not a counselor. I'm a computer technician.
<br>Unfortunately some of what I've learned I've learned after the fact of my own marital screwups. My biggest hope now is that my wife wil give me the chance to show that I've really learned it.