My husband stay up later at night than I do. In the morning when I go to trun on the news the TV has been left on the sex channel. Lately he has gotten smart and pushed another channel button after that, but when I turn it on and hit previous channel the sex channle comes up. (it is scrambled but you can still see what is going on) Should I be concerned about this? To break the ice about the subject I once woke him up in the middle of the night and said, I want to show you something I learneid from the sex channel. He was thrilled---but hasn't even acknowledged to me that he has turned it on. I need advice on if I should ignore it or directly talk about it. It bothers me most that I think he is hiding it from me. As some of you may know we have many other problems beside this, but since this habit has been going on for about 6months, EVERY night (and early morn) I wonder if it signals another problem.
<br>Thank you
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I'm wondering if most of you think this is ok---since no one has responded to it. Or you think it is a problem and don't know what to say....aaargh!!! I really don't know and would appreciate any feedback. Thanks

It is a problem if you think it is a problem. Sometimes what happens is very similar to the simplistic examples in the book H needs, H needs. If a husband is not having his need for sex met by his wife many times he will supplement somewhere else, often with a full blown affair. I really learned something in a seminar I took where we went over this book.
<br>When we discussed the fact that sex was a primary need for men in marriage the women in the group responded with venom (masked in humour) I had to wonder why when we discussed all of the other needs (men and women) why no one acted as the woman did during the discussion of sex. Why is it different than the need for affection, financial support, attractive spouse etc. Some even questiones its validity saying it was "from a mans point of view". I ask, who better qualified to speak about a man's needs than a man...I am going somewhere with this by the way.
<br>I cannot say if you are or are not meeting his needs. I think most men are not having this need taken care of. I am not suggesting that a man has the right to expect wierd sex or perverted sex. Only that there should be a middle ground that involves him maybe accepting less than his max expectations and you giving more than you really want to. If not, he will supplement with the sex channel or whatever. Maybe I am completely off base on your situation, if so shut me down...If I have struck a cord please explore it with your husband. I feel the fact that he was excited by the prospect of you having watched the channel tells me he is looking for more from you. I do not mean to put this all on you I am offering a reason, not an excuse. Sin is sin and the bible is quite clear on it as it is also clear on not denying each others needs to help us daily in a world full of temptations. Good luck

It is a problem if you think it is a problem. Sometimes what happens is very similar to the simplistic examples in the book H needs, H needs. If a husband is not having his need for sex met by his wife many times he will supplement somewhere else, often with a full blown affair. I really learned something in a seminar I took where we went over this book.
<br>When we discussed the fact that sex was a primary need for men in marriage the women in the group responded with venom (masked in humour) I had to wonder why when we discussed all of the other needs (men and women) why no one acted as the woman did during the discussion of sex. Why is it different than the need for affection, financial support, attractive spouse etc. Some even questiones its validity saying it was "from a mans point of view". I ask, who better qualified to speak about a man's needs than a man...I am going somewhere with this by the way.
<br>I cannot say if you are or are not meeting his needs. I think most men are not having this need taken care of. I am not suggesting that a man has the right to expect wierd sex or perverted sex. Only that there should be a middle ground that involves him maybe accepting less than his max expectations and you giving more than you really want to. If not, he will supplement with the sex channel or whatever. Maybe I am completely off base on your situation, if so shut me down...If I have struck a cord please explore it with your husband. I feel the fact that he was excited by the prospect of you having watched the channel tells me he is looking for more from you. I do not mean to put this all on you I am offering a reason, not an excuse. Sin is sin and the bible is quite clear on it as it is also clear on not denying each others needs to help us daily in a world full of temptations. Good luck

If this bothers you so much, than it is a problem. My husband and I went through a similar thing. He really liked watching movies. I get nothing out of them. So he started watching when I wasn't around. At first I didn't mind, but then I began to feel betrayed. My advice is to give him a safe and comfortable environment, non-confrontational, and let him know how you feel. Maybe he has no idea that this is bothering you. Good luck!
<p>Juli