Bruce,
<p>Broken-hearted pretty much describes me, I'm sorry to say. Last Sunday he told me that it was a wonder he wasn't a drunk because he was married to me. Nice. That cut pretty deep. Later he apologized and told me he didn't know why he had said that, but it still hurts.
<p>My former husband was an alcoholic and sex addict and I vowed I would never get even remotely involved with someone like that. I'd have MUCH rather stayed single than have married into another addiction. Now I'm beginning to wonder if my current husband is an addict. We've been working on Dr. Harley's materials for a couple of months now - we've tried SO many things before this - wonder now if anything will "work" for us. My husband is convinced that his one and only need is for sexual fulfillment...and obviously he's not getting what he wants from me. If we have sex then he thinks everything is just fine - he treats me like a human being again and is actually NICE to be around. But within 24 hours we're back to square one and if I don't
<br>live up to his expectations or read his mind, we're dancing the same old dance once again.
<p>I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent - and I'm a committed Christian who believes strongly in the sanctity of marriage and the vows I made - but this whole thing just seems way beyond me. I'm at a loss to know what to do anymore. And I'm really, really tired.
<p>I'm leaving tomorrow to spend a long weekend with a girlfriend of mine out of town. It's the second time I've been away from my husband since we married. He's not excited about my leaving - kind of a can't win situation though - doesn't want to be around me, doesn't want me to leave. I need a break though and I think it will be a good thing to be apart for a few days.
<p>I appreciate your words of wisdom. I think you are right about this being a time to get my priorities straight. I will work more on that. Thanks. I'm still praying that God will work a miracle here. I'm not out to change his personality or who he "is" - but I do need to see him show a little effort to understand what MY needs and desires are. It all seems so one-sided. It gets really tiring.
<p>Anyway, thanks for listening.
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