To start off, I'm in love with a girl I met at college, and we have been going out for a bit now informally. Meaning we spend a lot of time with each other, talking, moives, homework, or whatever else. The thing is, I'm totally in love with every part of her, and the more I get to know her the more I think of her, she on the other hand likes me as a good friend, but is unsure about anything more. She is still pushing away from an old relationship, but is letting him drag it out. She is a bit cautious and skeptical of me and the whole idea of getting into another relationship, but we enjoy hanging out, and we have talked about everything from childhood, to what we are thinking about for the future. I also seem to be one of the very few people in her life that encourages her and compliments her, she likes that, but she has been given a really negative self image of her self and knows that she has a tendancy to push away from the positive people in her life.
<br> In order to shorten up a long story, I love her and am having a hard time holding back and giving her time to think, when I feel so good about her. I do tease her a lot and pick on her, but I try to be respectful. So, how to I show her how much she means to me and how much I want to make an effort for something more between us, without pushing her or letting go.
<br> I have a lot more I could say, but I'm going to keep it short for now. I feel that she has some feelings towards me, but I'm worried about pushing her into something she is not ready for. I want to give this relationship with her every chance possible, so I know I didn't screw up something that could have been perfect.
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<br> LK

Lee,
<br>Since you're talking about college I assume you're probably pretty young, even though I know people of all ages go to college.
<br>I once had a situation similar to yours when I was around 19 or 20.
<br>I knocked myself out to show this beautiful girl how crazy about her I was. She did like me and we wrote a lot of letters back and forth. But when it cmae down to it I was not able to convinve her to let go of her fears.
<br>A friend who was a little more world wise than me at the time told me I had better be prepared to watch this one walk. That's precisely what happened and for a while I was in a real funk over it.
<br>Don't you know that after I finally moved on psychologically that the girl came to the point, after another guy treated her badly, that she decided I was a prime catch. But by that time I could not rekindle the flame after I had gone through such a time putting it out.
<br>Then I met my present wife, and I thank God I nver kooked up with the other girl. I'm not saying you won't. I'm just telling you that even if you can't get things going with her it won't be the end of the world though it might feel like it.

Lee,
<br>Since you're talking about college I assume you're probably pretty young, even though I know people of all ages go to college.
<br>I once had a situation similar to yours when I was around 19 or 20.
<br>I knocked myself out to show this beautiful girl how crazy about her I was. She did like me and we wrote a lot of letters back and forth. But when it cmae down to it I was not able to convinve her to let go of her fears.
<br>A friend who was a little more world wise than me at the time told me I had better be prepared to watch this one walk. That's precisely what happened and for a while I was in a real funk over it.
<br>Don't you know that after I finally moved on psychologically that the girl came to the point, after another guy treated her badly, that she decided I was a prime catch. But by that time I could not rekindle the flame after I had gone through such a time putting it out.
<br>Then I met my present wife, and I thank God I never kooked up with the other girl. I'm not saying you won't. I'm just telling you that even if you can't get things going with her it won't be the end of the world though it might feel like it.

I don't know what causes these double posts sometimes, and I sure wish this forum had an automatic spell checker after I go back and look at some of my posts.