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I really don't want my H to know about my posts on this site. I've cleared my history folder. Is there anyother way he will know?? Is there something still on my hard drive? What do I do about that? From the history folder can he just tell that I've visited this sight, or would he be able to read my post too?? Thanks from a computer dummy.
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GBM,
<br>From the history folder your husband will actually be able to simply double click and come right to this site. So if you don't want that you'd better make sure you clear it after each visit. Of course if you have the site bookmarked that makes it easy to get to it, also.
<br>Nothing will be on your hard drive unless you've downloaded something from the site. Also, if you ever got to the site by typing the URL into the LOCATION slot that may reside there for some time. I've never found a way to take that out except to let it be pushed out on its own over time.
<br>Hope that helps. Hey, thanks for making a computer technician feel useful.
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Thanks Bruce, although my husband knows most of my feelings I know he wouldn't appreciate that (even sort of anonymously) I am sharing them. I really appreciate this board, it has halped me a lot lately. I am glad I found it and hope it is as helpful to everyone else.
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GBM, <p>There is another place where temporary files are stored that he might be able to get to. Your post/s would not be visible, but the location of the post would be. The easiest way to clear this memory is to: 1) go to the desktop and single click (select) the internet shortcut button 2) right click and select properties 3) select the "General" tabe and then under the temporary internet files press the "Delete Files" button. 4) On this same screen you can press the "Clear History" button. (At this screen you can set the number of days that are maintained in the history folder and change this to "0". By doing this the history folder will clear itself everytime you log off.) <br>Hope this helps, <br>Dave
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<br> besides the history file, the temp internet file also maintains a trail of the past. don't forget to clear that too when you are in windows clearing the history. One more thing is kind of in relation to what bruce said about typing in the url.lf you use aol to sign onto the web you see the url bar on top and if you click on the down arrow at the right(after the url and before the word Go) a drop down will appear with the most recent places you have been. You can do one of 2 things. Either click on My Aol>Preferences>Toolbar>clear history trail now OR check the box that says clear history trail after each sign off.
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Whew--there's so much to all this. Does this go for email too? I have confided in a long time girl friend some of the problems, I know he'd be hurt if he knew. I appreciate all the help.
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GBM, <p>It depends on how your e-mail is set up. Mine is set up to keep a copy of all sent and all deleted messages. Most programs are set to keep a copy of the sent e-mails so that you can go back and verify that you did send it. The easiest thing to do is to go out and look at the mail personal folders that you have. If you have a sent or deleted folder you would want to open them and see what messages you want to delete or clear out. All of this seems like a lot, but once you get the hang of it, it will be easy. Best of luck... Dave
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<br> one thing l would like to add is that perhaps you can tell your H that you do confide in people online to help gain perspective to your feelings. l have told my H l did this and he does understand. He might not like the fact that so many people know of his affair,but he has never said so and to be honest l don't think he is in the position to and knows that. The way l look at it is no matter how guilty l do feel for my part in creating the atmosphere for an affair,he IS the one who did it,and therefore must accept the consenquences. l do think he is truly greatful for the friendships l have made online and the support l have gotten.l think he knows deep inside they will only help me to become stronger and in turn help us whether we remain married or not.
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