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So much of the heartache that we are suffering stems from the depression that my H suffered from when the affair started. Just out of curiosity, how may affairs began in the depths of the darkness? His medicine was just doubled and he began seeing a therapist. But the consequences of his actions are following him and won't let up.
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In retrospect, my H had been suffering from undiagnosed depression for quite awhile before the affair started. I had thought it was situational, but now I realize he has shown signs of depression off and on as long as I have known him.<P>There was a thread on TOW board asking that same question, and a lot of OW's responded that the MM had been clinically depressed, not that that stopped the OW's from becoming involved with them.
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There is a short article in April's Reader Digest "The disease men don't talk about".<BR>Yes I too saw the same in my H. Very good article. Most men don't want to take any meds because they feel they will not be in control. The opposite is true the meds help them keep their emotions in control and see things for what they "are" . <BR>I too got my H to take meds for a very short time. Then he decided he didn't need them and stopped. I think they might have helped control his impluse to flee. Now I will never know. I think he is still suffering from depression. <BR>I know meds are not always the answer, but they can help stabilize our emotions. <BR>I encourage everyone to read this article , especially MEN.
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Thanks for the responses. I will try to read that article. One of the aftereffects of this is the anguish and guilt that he suffers which doesn't help the depression. It seems like a vicious cycle. I hope the meds and the counseling can help him regain his sense of who he used to be before this.
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