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Jim,<BR>You know you are in my daily prayers.... but I will say special prayers for you today, tonight and tomorrow....<P>May God give you the strength to make and follow through with your decission.<P>I will light my candles too.... as soon as I get home tonight.<P>Love, thoughts & prayers always,<BR>Dawnetta<BR>aka ~ Butterfly<BR><P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Jim,<P>You give so much and ask for so little in return. I will be sending good thoughts and lots of prayers your way tomorrow. <P>(((((((HUGS)))))))<BR>Mitzi

Jim,<BR>I am feeling your pain and your indecision as to what to do.<P>We want our marriages to work and when it comes to this it is very hard.<P>This is my advice. They have to hit rock bottom. I think rock bottom for her will be when she is finacially straped. That is when the O/M will show his true colors and will not want her anymore.<P>At this point I know that you do not want to love bust but I feel your children and you come first. They deserve financal security if nothing else.<P>You have tried to give her flowers, cards ect to show your love for her. She is so deep in her addiction that she sees this as a threat to her and her new life.<P>If she has no money, so be it. You will and you will look more attractive to her because of it. <P>We both would give all of ourselves to save our marriages but then what we have left of us?<P>I do not know if my advice is the right advice. I am speaking from the heart. You have posted so many replies to me to help with my pain. I hope that I have helped with yours.<P>I will pray for you tonight! Be brave, be strong, be the man your kids want you to be!<P>My thoughts are with you!

<B>Dawnetta</B>...<BR>Prayers mean so much to me...<BR>When it happened that I got custody of the kids... I knew of over 100 people praying for me...<BR>It means so much to me! <P><B>Mitzi</B>...<BR>You don't know how much I get from all of you... <P><B>my3kids</B>...<BR>Your thoughts of how I should handle tomorrow...<BR>...are the same given by everyone!<BR>...God will give me the strength... for my kids!<P>--------------------------------------------<BR>Thank you all...<P>Jim<BR>--------------------------------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...

Jim, <BR>Posted to you on the other site....I am with you in my thoughts and prayers....<P>------------------<BR>Susan