My husband left 3 wks. ago. We've been married for almost 2 years and have a 1 yr old son. We've had problems ever since I got pregnant. That created intimacy problems which really lowered my self-esteem. I began to be suspicious and distrusting of him all the time. My husband is a very outgoing person and friendly with everybody, male or female. He has had women friends in the past, but when I got upset about them he began to hide the fact that he was talking to other women, which he said was innocent. Our intimacy problems have really never been solved and we grew more distant. <P> He's having major problems at his job and fears losing it at any time. He's under great pressure and he cannot seem to get control of his life. Our marriage seems to be on the back burner. He really loves our son and says he cares for me too. He says that there is hope but he wants to be alone right now. We still talk and see each other some. He's used to working out of town and that may make it easier to stay away. At first when he left I thought we were getting a divorce right away so I pursued legal info. and had let him go completely. He saw that I was moving on so he came back and begged and pleaded to come home again. I wanted to go to counseling and get help and at first he was agreeable. It seems that once he knew I was ready to try again, he slipped away again. Now he says that he only needs time to think and sort things out. He calls often and is still paying the bills. His things are still at the house. He basically wants me to hold on and at the same time let him go and have the time to do what he wants. <P> I am not sure about the other woman if there is one. But he did admit to going to drinks after work strictly as friends. He hid it and I found out, that is what caused the latest fight and breakup. Am I just insanely jealous or does he want his cake and eat it too?