Hi all,<BR>Tomorrow we have our temporary support and custody spelled out. H called this morning all upset about it. He fired his attorney weeks ago. He has wanted me to take a mediocre offer he made to me. My attorney wasnt to impressed by his offer. Plus, he is 3 weeks in the rears in paying me support. He pays house and car and has been giving me money for food and expenses. Well, for 6 weeks he stopped the cash. I am draining all my savings trying to pay for utilities and the rest. He than paid me for 4 weeks. But, he is now still 3 weeks behind. This man makes alot of money. He is doing it to be vindictive. He opened his own consulting business so he can hide his assests. He and the OW are just having a wonderful time trying to screw me and my son. Now, he wants me to feel bad because my attorney wont return his calls! Everyone all together say "AW, poor guy!"<BR>My MIL called yesterday. Havent heard a word from her since early Dec. Says he doesnt want her to talk to me. Probably called to feel me out on how I was going to handle things. Gave her no clues. She claims they have all tried to talk him out of affair. He wont listen. Who knows. <BR>My son saw picture of H and OW on his bedstand this weekend. He was upset. His father just doesnt get it. He is hurting my son all the time.<BR>OW's H found out about affair 3 weeks ago. He is starting his own kind of Plan A. He has told her he will fight to get her back. My H is I'm sure very threatened by all of this. OW lives in Chicago we live in Arizona. He definetly has the logistic advantage. My H says he wont move there. What a MESS!<BR>I am nervous about court tomorrow, yet I know it is for the best for me and my son.<BR>I feel like my H needs to be in court so he can start to face all of this.<BR>I just want this nightmare to end. <BR>It will be interesting to see if he can get an attorney retained and available for court by tomorrow. <BR>I guess it is a case of you reap what you sow. Will fill everyone in on the whole thing tomorrow!<BR>Please keep me and my son in your prayers for tomorrow. I will try to stay strong. Thanks in advance for the support!!<BR>Lisa

Hi I know what you are going through. I went through the same thing 2 weeks ago. Going to court was the hardest thing for me to do. I knew that would really seal my fate that H is not willing to reconsile. Of course he did not show. His attorney did, but I don't think it helped him any because judge basically gave me what I needed as his attorney couldn't confer with my H on proposals at that time. <BR>Of course now he is furious.<BR>I know I thought REALITY would left him out of the fog, but it didn't. Or at least it hasn't up til now. I hope things go well for you and your son. I know my son and are trying to move on w/o H. It's hard but it does get easier the less we hear from him.<BR>No better, just easier to deal with on a day to day basis. We still miss him and want him here with us. I do know that I don't want him here with us if he can't be here 100%. That will never work....One foot in our lives and one out. Sorry, that did not work and now it is time for me to let go.....<BR>For my own sanity and peace of mind.<BR>Good luck and let us know what happens.<BR>You'll be in our prayers.

I will be praying...<BR>...so many prayed for me... on my days in court!<P> <P>Jim

TTLG,<P>How did the hearing go??? Let us know!<P>Prayers,<BR>Mitzi