I love my husband dearly but I get so angry when he goes to sex sites all the time when He knows i dont like it. I like to watch porno movies with him it turns me on but why must he go to these sites to look at women when he has me? No I may not lok as good as they do but im his wife he really and truelly loves me I think he would respect my feelings baou this. BUt all I get from him is its what men do its in their blood. Well what am I chopped liver?

Dear Miya,
<p>In the first place it's not what all men do, I'm a man and I would much rather look at my wife than a picture anyday. Some men, and women too, I guess can become obsessed with explicit scenes involving sexual themes, but what it boils down to is maybe there is not enough new stuff in your sex life. If you want to bring some excitement in your relationship, then surprise him, entice him, spice things up and you might be surprised, but do it for the both of you, not just him.
<br>There is always the possibility that he has a problem with addiction to sex, it happens more often that you think.
<br>Just a few ideas. Good luck and have fun, but remember to tell him your feelings.
<p>John_98

John_98
<p>I agree to an extent with your reply. I am not sure that I believe that a man has the right to lust after others, when he has a woman that he supposedly loves sitting at home. But my question is, how do you go about spicing things up when you haven't been real daring in the past. I have the same problem going on in my home. But when I think of doing something, more risque, I freeze. I don't want to embarrass myself, I don't want to do the wrong thing. Maybe this is something that will get a little to graphic, but I have only been married a year and I guess I might be a little clueless, or just held back by my inhibitions. How do you get a guy to turn off the porno and want to come to bed with his wife?

Miya,
<p>My humble advice to you both is to avoid porno like Superman avoids kryptonite. Porno is extemely addictive for men because of the way we are sexually constituted - you know, with our frontal lobes directly tied to our gonads.
<br>Porno is designed to get you to elevate fantasy above reality. I have read and heard things by ex-porno stars. They'll be the first to tell you they are faking the explosive orgasms sex-in-any-way-at-any-time excitement. These films are made for only one reason, as if you didn't know,...MONEY. They are designed to appeal to that in you that you know cannot exist on that level in real life. To be hooked on porno is to be forever disatisfied with your current mate, who cannot always perform to porno standards.
<br>The intimate love and singleness of heart meant to be reserved for your mate will never find expression in the porno world.
<br>You don't need to use porno as a springboard for passion. If you're treating each other right you'll find plenty of reason for passion.

John I have tried all these things but he still ahs to go see the nude women what am i doing wrong and he sasy he doenst ahve to have sex all the time. But me I love it. BUt he still has to go see the nudes im lost here iguess I just dont understand men!