Is this where Plan A stops? Going to mediation instead of the traditional is great, but if I am in Plan A, will I get trampled, or taken advantage of?<P>Any suggestions from anyone who has been there? Basically, I wand more than the traditional dad visitation, but the W thinks,<BR>as a teacher who proclaims to be very knowledgable about these situations, that more than the standard is confusing to the kids.<P>thanks in advance<P>best of luck to the deserted with kids, <BR>hopefully we will provide the better side<BR>of life for our kids to grow into.<P>thl<BR>

Remember that Plan A is NOT intended for you to get trampled on... you must still stand firm for what you believe in... Here's a site that I found interesting, which might give you some ideas on how to Plan A in mediation, even though it is NOT part of the MB website nor is it in any way affiliated with Dr. Harley.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.Divorceasfriends.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.Divorceasfriends.com/</A> <P>Check it out...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I can see clearly now,<BR>the rain is gone ...

Dear WIFTT,<P>I am sorry I didn't get back w/you yesturday.I was exausted from all the car washing..........<P>I have to say in my situation,I did agree w/your W........<P>I had planed on only seeing my H when he would come to get my son for school.....<P>I even told him that I wouldn't be cutting his hair,going skating w/the kids,no holidays together,and so on!......<P>I have to say tho the kids are doing a much better job than I expected......he has come over and I cut his hair.....stayed for dinner!....He came over for Easter,we really had a nice day!(went skating also)<P>I know that my children will always have the "hope" of daddy coming home again!.....and we will deal w/that when the time comes......but when they see us together,we are very friendly,I still call him all of his "nicknames".....I just behave like he is still w/us.My children are better for it!<P>I have always read it is how the parents behave toward eachother that makes the lasting impression......not the seperation or Divorce in it self!<P>I don't know if this has helped???<BR>If you have any more Q,I will be glad to try and answer them!<P>Gina<P>